Why is Life So Hard?

Are you in a struggle pattern? Do you have a belief that life is hard or good things only come to those who work hard? Watch this video to learn how to interrupt that pattern and welcome greater ease into your life.

Next time you feel like you are rowing up stream ask the question - what if it were easy? It is a great paradigm interrupt and as a result you will receive different ideas and inspiration to help you move towards your goals.

 

To Ease and Joy, 

Stacey

Are you stuck in the past or anxious about the future?

Do you find yourself dwelling in the past? Wondering what if you would have done things differently or made different choices? Or maybe you find yourself saying "When (fill in the blank) happens then I'll be happy"? Living in the past or in the future takes us away from where our power exists - in the present moment. Watch this video to see how the hourglass is a powerful reminder of this important idea.

What are you choosing to create with this day that you've been gifted with? 

Living in this moment,

Stacey

Here's Why Gratitude Is So Powerful

Were you raised to mind your manners, always making sure that you said please and thank you? Not only is it good manners to say thank you it is also a significant transformational tool - watch this video to learn more about the power of gratitude and how to use it to change the trajectory of your life.

What can you do to bring a greater habit of gratitude into your day? Maybe there are things in your life that you are taking for granted, look around the space you are in right now and pause to say thank you - for the technology, the fresh air, the books and knowledge, etc. Remember what we appreciate appreciates.

In great gratitude,

Stacey

Lessons From Nature - The Beaver Dam

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Not far from our house, there is a meandering creek that we cross multiple times a week. This spring the beavers masterfully built a dam in this creek close to the bridge and slowly the water backed up until it eventually flooded the area.  This weekend, on our way home from getting ice-cream on a hot summer evening, we pulled over so we could look at the dam and show the kids.  It was fun to hear their opinions on whether the dam should be removed or not and if it was better to protect their work and home or the land and the various perspectives they were able to take. 

 

Similar to the dam on the creek slowing the flow of water, we build blocks and resistance in our own lives, which slows down or stops the flow of good in our life.  Unlike the beaver’s dam, our blocks are typically not as visible and so they can be more difficult to spot if we aren’t paying attention.  They usually start with maybe having less energy, feeling ‘off’, maybe more arguments in a relationship or surprise speeding tickets or other bills in the mail.  Eventually if we do not manage this energy or get the flow back the blocks show up as dis-ease in various areas of our life.

 

How to get the flow back

The good news is we can remove these blocks and have the flow return through a few simple strategies.  The first step is often just to acknowledge it, do a quick inventory of your life and notice where the blocks are, the trick here is to do this without judging yourself but just to notice them with a sense of curiosity.  The second step is to imagine the flow back in this area – what would you prefer the result to be and start getting curious about what you would rather to create and third take some sort of action towards accomplishing that. 

 

When it feels insurmountable

The blocks are inevitable, and the sooner we can notice them and switch our attention back to what we do want to create, the easier it is.  However, at times those blocks feel more like barricades, and at times like this it is so important to ask for help, there isn’t a barricade to big that can’t be overcome, it just may require a bit more patience, love and support, what awaits on the other side is well worth it!

 

Believing in You!

Stacey

How to Stay Motivated

Do you find it hard to stay motivated when you aren't seeing results yet? 

In this week's video, I discuss some tools to use when we're trying to stay on course and start to get discouraged.

Summers can be short so it is a prime time to get distracted from our goals, schedule time for lots of play this summer and also be mindful about your vision and schedule time to move your goals forward too. 

To Your Success,

Stacey

How Clear Are Your Goals?

Do you dream of travelling more, having more time with your family and friends or having a special someone in your life? As we are going about achieving these dreams it is key to have a coherent statement; you must know what you want and be definite with that desire. Wallace Wattles states that "You can never get rich, or start the creative power into action, by sending out unformed longings and vague desires."

In this video I talk about the importance of clarity in creating your goals.

Clarity is power, the more clear you are with your vision and your goals the better the Universe can bring you what you desire.

To Greater Clarity,

Stacey

Do You Have Shiny Object Syndrome?

Do you ever find it hard to stay focused? Do you get distracted easily? Do you ever get to the end of the day and feel like you haven't accomplished anything? 

You are not alone. In this week's video I share why we get distracted and two simple strategies for staying focused on the task at hand so you can achieve your goals.

The greater intentionality and focus we bring into our days, the greater success and progress we we will experience.

 

To Your Success! 

Stacey

 

Did you see that - it's growing!

Last weekend we planted our new vegetable garden.  The seed packages were sorted, the rows measured the seeds planted and watered and then last night when the kids and I went out to water the garden there it was - the first evidence of vegetables in the form of teeny, tiny green leaves peering out of the soil which were only visible because we were really looking for them.  We all pointed and got excited about the signs of life coming out of the ground.  

Can you relate to that feeling of seeing something new come to life?  

Have you ever noticed how much more effort is required in getting a seed started in its new life and how much easier it gets once the momentum starts to build?    Where am I going with this?  Let's look at the parallels when we are building a dream.  In the beginning it's so important to choose carefully what seeds you are planting in terms of your thoughts and visions and those new ideas and then it requires a lot of nurturing, planning, thinking and sifting and sorting and after some time there is a momentum that can start to build and it becomes easier and easier.   One of the keys is to be gentle with ourselves in the early phases of dream building.  

It can be so exciting to see a child first learn to ride a bike - even when they do it wobbly, and we want toddlers to re-cite their ABC's over and over for anyone who will listen - even when the mix up the letters or forget 1, 2 or even half of them.  Why not have that same patience and excitement with ourselves as we are learning new skills and building new dreams.  I so often hear people complain that they are not progressing fast enough, or that they really wish they would have made more advancement when meanwhile they are missing the progress and the results that they have experienced.  Without that tiny little sprout in our garden we will never dine on fresh vegetables, starting out wobbly on the bike is a necessary step to being an expert rider, just like without the first progress you will never manifest your full vision.  My encouragement to you is that you look closely for the sprouts and when you see them celebrate them as a sign and signal that you are on your way.  

To Celebrating the Sprouts, 

Stacey
www.staceyberger.ca
587-983-3911
stacey@everexpanding.ca

Living on the Edge

I am still smiling thinking about the energy in the room on Monday night at the Vision Workshop witnessing people light up as they gave themselves permission to dream.  Today we are exploring one of the reasons so many dreams never materialize.

Each one of us is experiencing results in our life and some of those results we are happy with and in other areas we would prefer a different result.  Change requires us to leave our comfort zone which is where most people struggle.  Just because you aren't happy with a result - maybe it's in your time freedom, with your health or relationship status - it is still comfortable and it's much easier to do what we are accustom to doing than to change, we all fall into habits and routines and sometimes ruts.  The truth is if we want a different result it will require us to do new things, to step out and live on the edge of our comfort zone. 

Eleanor Roosevelt said it brilliantly "Do one thing everyday that scares you".  This doesn't necessarily mean jumping out of an airplane or standing in a pit of snakes, but instead, it means to have a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, try new things, dare to stretch beyond your current paradigm.   Successful people get comfortable being uncomfortable for the purpose of growth.  When was the last time you were uncomfortable? 

Sometimes it feels like on the other side of making a decision or taking a step is a drop off of a steep cliff and our imagination takes us to the place of everything that could go wrong, but what if instead you imagine that on the other side is your dream-life, is more time freedom, your soul mate, waking up with purpose each morning.  What if by leaving your comfort zone you learned what you are truly capable of accomplishing?  

What could you do today that would stretch you as a step towards making your dream a reality?  

To Living on the Edge, 
Stacey

 

Staying Positive When The Skies Are Grey

I love spring. I love hearing the birds sing, I love the promise of longer and warmer days, green grass, planting my garden, and the overall newness that it represents.  What I didn't love was waking up to more snow this past weekend, if you live in Alberta you know what I mean.  I had to be very mindful this past week not to let it ruin my mood (and no, it wasn't easy and no, I wasn't great at it!).  A question that I get asked a lot is how do I maintain my positive thoughts when things don't seem to be working out?  It is not only a great question but it is critical if we want to experience a different result in our life. 

This quote is from one of my favourite books, The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles: 

“To think what you want to think is to think TRUTH, regardless of appearances.

Every person has the natural and inherent power to think what they want to think, but it requires far more effort to do so than it does to think the thoughts which are suggested by appearances.  To think according to appearance is easy; to think truth regardless of appearances is laborious, and requires the expenditure of more power than any other work one is called upon to perform.”


It is very easy to look at the facts around us and allow that to determine our state of mind, to get caught up in the circumstances or in what other people are doing or saying. However, if we want to produce a different result we must be able to hold our vision strong even in the face of a snowstorm.  As Wattles says, this requires a lot of work so be kind to yourself when you falter.  Here are 4 simple strategies to help maintain that positive thinking in the face of adversity (or a snowstorm):

  1. Connect with Your Vision - if you are building a business, looking for your soul mate or getting your health on track, connect with that vision, imagine yourself experiencing the results, remember why you set that goal in the first place. 
  2. Remember Your Successes - this is both a fun and a powerful exercise, sit down and start listing all of the times that you were successful, felt proud and loved.  These could be memories from your childhood or this morning, pay attention to how you feel as you relive those memories.  
  3. Gratitude - When the skies are grey it's easy to forget all of the good that you have in your life.  Take a breath and bring to mind what you can be grateful for in this moment.  Gratitude is such an expansive emotion and is a great way to shift our thinking. 
  4. Do Something Physical - if you are sitting down stand up, play music and dance around, go for a walk, take a few deep breaths, make a phone call - take some sort of action to help signal your mind and body that you are ready to move on. This is the strategy I employed this weekend, we made a snowman, went snowshoeing and sat by the fire - like the old saying goes when life hands you lemons make lemonade! 

On May 8th at the Vision Workshop we will work on developing your vision so you have a place to connect with in the 'grey sky' moments and explore these ideas in depth. If you are ready to experience a different result in your life register by clicking here.   

To Your Dreams, 
Stacey
www.staceyberger.ca
587-983-3911
stacey@everexpanding.ca

A Powerful Story About a Fly

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Today I am sharing with you a powerful little story told by Price Pritchett.  As you read it, contemplate where you are locked into a certain way of doing things or maybe where you are trying to get a result through pure effort and where considering a different approach may bring greater results with greater ease. 
 

A True Story


I'm sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto.  It's just past noon, late July, and I'm listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or-death struggle going on a few feet away. 

There's a small fly burning out the last of its short life's energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane.  The whining wings tell the poignant story of the fly's strategy - try harder

The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival.  Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap.  It is impossible for the fly to try hard enough to succeed at breaking through the glass.  Nevertheless, this little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination. 

The fly is doomed.  It will die there on the windowsill.  

Across the room, ten steps away, the door is open.  Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could reach the outside world it seeks.  With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free of this self-imposed trap.  The breakthrough possibility is there.  It would be so easy. 

Why doesn't the fly try another approach, something dramatically different?  How did it get so locked in on the idea that this particular route, and determined effort, offer the most promise for success?  What logic is there in continuing, until death, to seek a breakthrough with "more of the same"?

No doubt this approach makes sense to the fly.  Regrettably, it's an idea that will kill. 

"Trying harder" isn't necessarily the solution to achieving more.  It may not offer any real promise for getting what you want out of life.  Sometimes, in fact, it's a big part of the problem. 

If you stake your hopes for a breakthrough on trying harder than ever, you may kill your chances for success. 

   - Price Pritchett


If you are ready to try a different approach, join me on May 8th in Edmonton for a powerful Vision Workshop where you will learn simple, yet highly effective ways to achieve greater results with less effort - register here.  What if a breakthrough result was easy - would that be okay with you?

To Your Dreams, 
Stacey

www.staceyberger.ca
587-983-3911
stacey@everexpanding.ca

Never Underestimate the Power of 5 Minutes

Time is an interesting thing.  There's too much, there's not enough, it can be wasted, it can be treasured, it can go fast, it can go slow and last week we even 'lost an hour'.  All of these statements illustrate how powerful our perception is and demonstrates how we have the ability to put meaning on everything, including our most precious asset of all, our time. 

A powerful lesson was once taught to a new group of University students by their Dean.  He stood up on stage ready to address the crowd and instead of speaking stood in silence.  Imagine a crowd of hundreds of people in still silence, not knowing what was happening and for, what some would later say, felt like an uncomfortable eternity.  When he finally spoke he said, "that was five minutes, never underestimate the power of five minutes".   

Life can change in a moment, we all understand this at some level, and we typically hear it in relation to receiving news about an accident or a diagnosis, but how about choosing to use a moment, or 5-minutes, to intentionally have a powerful impact on the trajectory of your day.  Next time you find yourself saying I only have 5 minutes, ask yourself this question instead, 'What could I do in 5 minutes that would move me closer to my vision?'. 

Each one of us was given 525,600 minutes this year and 20% of those have already gone by, what are you choosing to do with the next 5 of them?  

To the moments, 
 

How's that working for you...

I had a couple of 'off' days last week.  Specifically Monday & Tuesday.  Our youngest was sick and didn't sleep well for two nights so I turned off my alarm and skipped my morning meditation and workout in favour of sleep.  By Tuesday afternoon I was in a bad mood and as the time went on I was coming up with a pretty good list of 'becauses' to explain my foul mood.  By the time the alarm rang on Wednesday morning I turned it off and justified it by saying I deserved more sleep when a quiet little voice inside of me asked "and how's that been working out for you?"  Oh that powerful inner guidance that knows exactly what to say to us to catch our attention (if we are willing to listen for it). That morning it was exactly what I needed to hear and I got myself out of bed and into my meditation chair where I began writing my gratitudes.  As I was journalling I became awake to the fact that I had given my power over to my circumstances for the last two days and in that moment I reclaimed it.  

I am grateful that it only took me two days to choose a different mindset, this isn't always the case.  

In reflection it was amazing how many reasons I was able to come up with why I was in a bad mood and as I thought of one reason another one would be ready to be added to the list.  This is how the Universe responds to us - wherever we put our attention it says yes to us and gives us more of that.  This is the power of the remedy of gratitude, by placing your attention on what is going right and all of the things to be grateful for in this moment the Universe begins to respond to that with more positive thoughts which creates more positive feelings which impacts our actions and ultimately our results.   

Turn up your noticing on how often you use the word 'because' this week.  "This won't work because... I can't do this because... I'll be late because.... I can't buy that because....We're experiencing this result because..."  Now let's be real, this is how most of us have been trained to think and to look at our results but it doesn't mean it's the right way or the only way.  This week be open to asking yourself these powerful questions:

  • Is there another potential outcome to this situation?
  • Is there another way to look at this situation? 
  • What would I do if I didn't think it was impossible? 
  • What would I love the outcome to be? 
  • Am I focused on the problem or the solution? 
  • What can I be grateful for in this moment? 

I believe that our work to do is to stay awake more often to our power and our ability to create our circumstances versus being a victim to them.  We are powerful creative beings and we have ultimate to choice on how we are going to show up in every moment.  

To Staying Awake, 

A Long Way to Travel

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In the spring-like conditions this week we headed out to the tobogganing hill near our house on Monday after school.  First Anna and I walked over, and not long after Aaron came running all the way over and then a little while later Adele came walking/stumbling through the field to join in on the fun. Not long ago, I remember how far that tobogganing hill seemed from our house, the kids were smaller and we had to haul them and their stuff out and it was such a daunting task and a trek that seemed overwhelming and at times it seemed just easier to stay inside.  

Isn't that true when we set a new goal for ourselves, it often seems so far and out of reach and we wonder how we will ever get there and at times it is just easier to stay where we are.  Michael Beckwith says we are either pushed by pain or pulled by a vision and these can be two motivating factors to start down the road no matter how long it may seem.  To keep you moving forward toward your goal these 3 tips can help you along the journey:

1. Fall in love with where you are going.  How in love are your destination?

2. Don't suffer from the lone ranger syndrome. Ask for help along the way. 

3. Take a step - any step.  Keep moving, you don't need to know exactly how it is all going to work, take the step that you know how to take and keep taking those steps. 

Steve Jobs said that you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards.  So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future."  As long as that road may seem in this moment trust that you will look back one day and it won't seem so far,  and remember the long road is part of the joy of the journey!  I am grateful for the winter days when we made the long trek to that tobogganing hill because those memories were worth the effort, and in my life when I've reached for a goal that seemed out of reach I am grateful for the part of me that took that first step.  

To Your Journey, 


www.staceyberger.ca
587-983-3911
stacey@everexpanding.ca

Taking the 30,000 Foot View

Taking the 30,000 Foot View 

On a flight this week from LA to Seattle on my way home to Edmonton we flew up the coast with a view of the ocean most of the way.  There are so many pieces of wisdom that I hear all the time that I think I understand but on this flight one of those pieces of wisdom landed in a much deeper way.
 
The ocean is massive.  From 34,000 feet its vastness is apparent and I know that I am still seeing just a tiny portion of it from seat 12A.  I have often heard the saying you can go to the ocean with a teaspoon and it will delight to give you a teaspoon or you can go with a bucket and it will delight to fill that bucket.  So often we go to life with a teaspoon (often sheepishly wondering if we are asking too much) and life delights to fill our teaspoon when all along it would have just as lovingly filled a bucket – any size of bucket.
 
Are you asking from the ocean of possibility for what you truly desire or are you accepting your current life as all you were meant to have?
 
At 34,000 feet I started asking for more from my life, knowing that it is available, not only for me, but for each one of us. Looking at the huge ships that were merely specks I laughed to myself at how small a teaspoon would be compared to the ocean and I know that the ocean is just a microcosom of the postential that exists in the Universe and in Life.
 
At 34,000 feet it was much easier to see the possibility than it was standing in the security line at the airport.  Sometimes it's hard to see the possibilities of our life when we are standing in our circumstances.  Give yourself the gift of looking down at your life from a 30,000 foot perspective – where are you playing small and where could you be asking for more, knowing that the Universe is ready to say "Yes".
 
To Your Success, 


www.staceyberger.ca
587-983-3911
stacey@everexpanding.ca

Maximizing the Impact of a Vision Board

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'Tis the Season of the Vision Board

My two favourite holidays are Thanksgiving and New Years because it's the time when the masses are in a state of gratitude and creating visions - something that successful people embody each and every day. 

So in this season of creating resolutions and vision boards I wanted to offer a few tips and tricks on how to help make them stick. 

Approach versus Avoidance
A lot of resolutions are written as avoidance goals - things that we want to remove from our life or what we want less of, for example lose weight, quit smoking, get out of debt.  Even though we are saying 'lose' the weight, typically our emotion lies on the word 'weight' and whatever we emotionalize we attract more of in our life.  A more powerful way to write your goals is as approach goals, what would you love to create, when you lose the weight what will the results be?  Greater flexibility? Vibrant Energy? Feeling great in your clothes.  Rewrite your goals to embody the result to make them more powerful.  

Feel Into It
Am mentioned above what we emotionalize we create more of, use this as a tool to help achieve your 2017 goals by bringing emotion to the goals being accomplished.  How will it feel to have more money in your bank account, how will it feel to be in a relationship with the love of your life, how will you feel in that little black dress.  This is why vision boards are so powerful, the images tend to evoke more emotion inside of us which creates more of a magnetic field to attract what we do want.  

Keep it Alive
Once your vision board is done put it somewhere that you can see it everyday and then train yourself to look at it and emotionally engage with it.  I'm sure you have pictures in your home that you rarely even notice anymore because you see them so often, it can be the same with a vision board or goals after some time it is there but we are not seeing it anymore.  Make it a habit of reading your goals everyday or looking at your vision board and imagining yourself inside of the images.  With repetition our faith increases that we will achieve the results and our motivation stays strong.  

Take Action
Vision boards are a great tool, but without action it will remain an idea.  Serve your vision with action everyday - ask yourself what is one thing I can do today in service of the vision and then go do it. 

Celebrate Your Success
Make sure to celebrate all of the wins along the way to the vision, the little wins are necessary to achieving the big vision so give yourself the wins along the way. 

To Your Success, 

2016 - Get the Lessons

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2016 - Get the Lessons

Before you completely close the door on 2016 give yourself the gift of harvesting all of the gold the last 12 months has provided you.  Take some time to capture all of your wins - all of those moments big and small that brought a smile to your face.  The moments that you are proud of and what you have accomplished.  And then take some time to look for the lessons in the times that maybe didn't go quite as planned, where things didn't look quite as bright as you would have liked, take some time of reflection to look at those events and look for the lessons.    

Often we are so quick to move on to the next thing, in this case the next year, without taking the time to celebrate, to learn and then make the adjustments, this is a skill not only to embody at the end of the year but throughout the year.  By celebrating our successes we put more energy on them signalling to the Universe that we would love more of that. By learning from the lessons we can make valuable adjustments not to repeat the same patterns.  Both of these - the wins and the lessons, can be powerful tools in creating a 2017 that you love.  Use them as feedback to get greater clarity of what you would love more of and what you would love less of as we begin a new year. 

If you are ready for additional tools and support to help you build a 2017 you love please consider attending The Vision Workshop on January 21 in Edmonton, this will be a powerful day where you will learn tools to create, not the typical New Years resolutions, but a powerful vision for your life as well as tools to sustain change in your life.  If you are unable to make it on January 21st but would love to have some support, book a complimentary strategy session using this link.

An idea I learned from a client this year to anchor the idea of celebrating your wins going into 2017, consider starting a 'win jar', every time something great happens in your life write it on a piece of paper and place it in a jar, periodically throughout the year, and then as the year closes out, you can go through the jar and recall all of those moments - what a great way to energize the successes.  

To harvesting the gold, 


www.staceyberger.ca
587-983-3911
stacey@everexpanding.ca

Change this One Word to Create a Different Result

Replace this one word

Have you ever uttered the words "I have to _____ fill in the blank - eat more vegetables, exercise more, get up earlier, be more positive, clean the house, call so-and-so back....", of course you have, we all have.  Our lists of 'to do's' can often feel long and overwhelming and we feel like there is so much that we have to do, so in the busyness of life and with all of the things there are to do, try making this small replacement to create a more generative and empowered state of mind which can create more joy in the 'doing'. 

The next time you find yourself saying "I have to, I should, I need to, I must"  replace those words with these more empowering options "I get to, I choose to, I'm deciding to".  The truth is we always have a choice and when we claim that choice with our words we choose a different state of being, which generates a different feeling tone and ultimately a different experience.  When we claim that we have to do something we are giving our power over to our circumstances so instead claim it as a choice. 

To choosing, 

Feeling Indecisive?

W.H. Murray was a mountain climber, author and soldier and one of the things that Murray said was that "Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.  Concerning all acts of initiative, there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans, namely; that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.  All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred."  He goes onto say that "Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.  Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." 

This is so powerful.  Where have you been delaying making a decision, maybe sitting on the fence, or have you been waiting for the timing to be just right, the market conditions to change or maybe for someone else to decide for you?  As long as we are indecisive there is little to no movement happening. Indecisiveness can be a very stagnant energy.  

Decision making is a skill of successful people that can be learned and developed.  When you find yourself saying things like: 'We will just see what happens'  'It's a possibility'  'I'll decide when the time is right' 'I will think about it' 'I'm just not sure what to do'.   Pause and ask yourself if this is a decision you could be making now.  By making decisions quickly and committing yourself to that decision it moves molecules, as Murray says all sorts of things occur to help you and support you in your decision.  The best thing to do when you make a decision is to follow it with action quickly.

Make a decision, take action.  Make a decision, take action.  Make a decision, take action.  It is a formula for success!

To Being Bold!