Is there a decision that you’re putting off right now, where it’s time to choose?
When we have a goal, it’s very easy to sit in the land of “I’ll think about it,” “I’ll wait and see what happens,” or “When it feels like the right time, then I’ll make a decision.”
That indecision, the thinking about it, that has killed countless dreams.
Here’s the key to that moment when we make a decision for something: you must decide in the absence of knowing how, of having all the answers, or of knowing where all the resources are going to come from. The moment we make a decision for something, it is in that moment that the universe conspires to support us in achieving our goal.
But in the absence of your decision, nothing changes.
In moments when we make scary decisions, when we say “I’m leaving the job”, “I’m leaving the marriage”, “I’m saying yes to writing that book”, “I’m saying yes to that support”, we make a decision that’s outside of our comfort zone. It’s outside of our normal way of thinking and way of being.
It’s very, very normal in those moments when you decide, for fear to shoot through your body. That feeling of fear, that feeling in your gut of “What have I just done?” maybe you can feel your heart racing a little bit quicker – It’s a sign and a signal that you are about to grow.
That is your comfort zone raising to the surface and arguing for itself. And if we’re not aware of this, the habit or the tendency can be to collapse back to the familiar. And so it’s really important to know that when we make those scary decisions and say yes to ourselves and something that’s outside of our comfort zone, that fear is very normal.
Just by understanding that, it relaxes your nervous system, and you can just say to your fear, “I’m about to grow! This actually means I’m on the right path.”
That scary moment happened for me when I knew that I wanted a career change. I knew I was no longer happy doing the work that I was doing in the corporate world. And, it wasn’t very practical for me to make a change. I was supporting a family of five, and from the outside looking in, it looked really good. But in my heart, I knew that it wasn’t something I wanted to do very much longer. And there was a moment where I made a decision. I made a decision in the absence of it being practical, in the absence of knowing what I was going to do next, how it was all going to work out… and I made a decision that it was time to quit that career and say yes to work that lit me up.
And I remember in that moment that I decided, there was a part of me that was terrified, and there was a part of me that was really excited. And I am so grateful to the part of me that said yes. The part of me that made that decision, because I can’t imagine still being in that old life!
So what decision have you been maybe sitting on the fence about, where you’ve been waiting for the perfect conditions, the perfect circumstances, all the answers, all the resources to show up?
What if you were to make a decision for it NOW? Make a decision in the absence of knowing how, or of having all of the answers. And watch what starts to happen in your life for you.
To You Living a Life You Love,