Do you feel obligated when somebody asks you to do something, or to help, that you automatically say yes? Then you’re left feeling burnt out, tired, or there’s not enough time to do the things that you would really love? Maybe you are even feeling resentful towards that person and you start to even maybe resent yourself? (“Why do I always do this?”) But yet here you are, unable to say no.
Today I want to share with you how you can say no and still feel good.
Knowing what to say no to becomes just as important to what we say yes to, and it starts with being really really clear on our vision, our goals and where we’re going. When we have that crystal clear vision and the goals, and we know where we’re headed, it becomes much easier to say no to the things that are unlike that vision.
When somebody invites you into a project, or says you have to watch this or read something, or asks if you can come over and do something for them, we now have a place to ask ourselves, does this align with my vision, my goals, my intentions, and where I’m going? And if it doesn’t, now we’re saying no from a place of vision and expansion.
We can lovingly say to somebody, “You know, that sounds very interesting, and I’m focusing my energy over here right now.” Imagine if somebody said that to you. “Hey, this is what I’m focusing on and working on, and I’m really excited about it, so this doesn’t fit in right now.” Chances are you would be OK with that, you would honour what they’re telling you.
It’s the same with you. When you are able to say no from a place of vision, and being very intentional about how you’re spending your time, people around you will really respect and honour that.
Remember, your time is a limited resource. You can’t create more time.
As you become very intentional about what you’re doing with your time, what you’re saying yes to, and therefore what you’re saying no to, you will create more energy and more momentum to the things that are more important to you.
Then, you’ll no longer carry that resentment or that bitterness over that overwhelm. You’ll soon find that your calendar is now filled with things that light you up.
So by having a really clear vision, saying yes and no to things based on that vision, allows you to say no and still feel good.
If you know somebody right now that tends to say yes to other people at the expense of themselves, make sure you share this video with them, it will absolutely help them out.
Here is to you living a life you love!