When it’s hard to let yourself dream

Were you raised being told not to daydream, to be practical and realistic? This is very common. Often when someone comes to me with this story, they feel quite defeated by that because they don’t even know how to give themselves permission to dream. 

Maybe you have a desire for things to be different, but you don’t know what to do next, and how to start dreaming. 

Today I want to give you some tools on how to get started. 

First of all, recognize that each one of us has been gifted with this powerful mental faculty of our imagination. We’re meant to imagine, we’re meant to dream and to design things in our minds. And it’s true, that for many of us when we were little kids, we were given permission to dream. But when we got to a certain age we were told be practical, be realistic, stop daydreaming, to follow a certain formula. That imagination has been trained out of us. 

Know that you have a perfect imagination, but just like any muscle, we have to start using it again to build it. The question that we work with in the Mastery of Mind series is “What would you love?” 

What would you love? It’s a powerful way to get past the condition based thinking. Notice the difference in asking what would you love versus what’s practical, what’s realistic, what would my parents or spouse want me to do, what should I do based on my education, or how much money is in the bank account? 

When you ask what would I love and you put the how on hold at this point, we’re just interested in the what, it’s a way to start using that muscle. 

Another way to start working on your vision and building that ability to dream is think about the times in your life where you were the most happy. What were you doing? Who were you with? And use that to help to build a picture of the things that you do love, that give you life, that feel expansive. 

And finally, start noticing when you’re in conversations with people and you’re hearing them say “I just got back from this place” or “I just read this book” or other experiences. Notice within you if there’s a spark of “I would love that!” That’s a great indicator of your own life energy, that that’s something you would love. 

Start paying attention to the things that give you life.

What would you love? Maybe up until now you haven’t given yourself permission to ask that question, but the best place to start is now. Start dreaming, start imagining, giving yourself permission to be curious. 

And if you would love some support in getting more clear about what you want, please attend the Vision Workshop on January 23, 2021. Together we will spend a day building that muscle once again, learning that imagination that exists within you innately. 

No matter where you are on that journey today, maybe you’ve never given yourself permission to dream and you’re just starting down this path, know that you are in the right and perfect place. It is never too late to start dreaming! 

Here’s to you living a life you love,

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Stacey Berger

Stacey Berger

After 16 years of climbing the corporate ladder, mentoring entrepreneurs in marking, operations and finance, I made the decision in 2014 to teach success principles full time, combining my love of business and personal development.


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