In the absence of having other supporters around you, that dream can simply die in that moment.
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Picture this: you have a dream ignited within you, where maybe you were feeling lost, you were feeling this sense of more, and all of a sudden there’s this passion, there’s this idea that gets ignited within you. Naturally, we want to share that excitement, especially with our partners.
So you go and you tell your partner this is what you’re thinking, and you’re met with resistance.
“How are you going to do that?”
“How are we going to afford that?”
“I’m not sure if now is a good time.”
If we’re not careful, that can deflate us, and it’s like all the air gets let out of this dream. In the absence of having other supporters around you, that dream can simply die in that moment.
First of all, know that you’re not alone. This is not uncommon!
In the absence of having other supporters around you, that dream can simply die in that moment.
So here you are knowing that you’re meant for more. You have this idea, you have this passion, and you want to move it forward, but you’re faced with that resistance.
What do you do today?
I’m going to be offering you two things that you can start applying right now to start building that feeling of support from your partner.
You know your partner the best, and you know if this first one will work or not, but the first thing that we can do is say to them, “I don’t expect you to understand it, I don’t even expect you to like this idea, but it would really mean a lot to me for you to support me because you love me.” We’re letting our partner off of the hook here. They don’t have to agree with our dream, understand it, and they don’t have to even like the dream. They don’t have to agree with everything you’re thinking about, but they love you and you’re asking them to support you just for the simple fact that they love you.
Here’s the catch with that, if we’re going to ask that of our partner, we also have to be willing to support our partners in their dreams even when we don’t like it.
Are you being that support to your partner?
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Here’s the second thing that you can do to start to build this support. When we get that type of feedback, it’s really easy to throw our hands in the air and say “My partner doesn’t support me, they don’t believe in me.” We start to tell ourselves stories or maybe even our friends about what we’re thinking, then what our partner is thinking, claiming they never support you.
The truth is, in your time together, I am sure there are ways that your partner supports you. Start to tune your attention to all of the ways your partner supports you, supports your family, supports your dreams or has supported your dreams in your past. You will start to see them in a different light. It might be that you’re making dinner and they come in to help cut the vegetables – they’re supporting you in that moment. Maybe it’s a time where you could just really use a hug or some emotional support, and they’re there for you. Start noticing all the ways that your partner is supporting you, maybe they’re providing for your family or providing financially in a certain way, that’s a form of support.
As you start to notice all the ways that you’re supported, even though they may not have shifted how they feel about your dream, you have shifted your own mindset. You have gone from thinking and believing thoughts like, “they never support me, I’m not supported, I’ve got to do this on my own” to “I am supported by my partner. My partner supports me in many ways.”
As you know from the many resources on this channel and the videos that we’ve done, you know about the importance of your thoughts and about where you’re placing your attention. As you start to place your attention on being supported, you will attract to you more support in all sorts of ways, maybe from your partner, yes, and also all sorts of ways that the universe will conspire to support you when we’re trying something new.
We really would love the people close to us to support us in those dreams and that’s not always the case. They don’t always have that full capacity to support us in the way that we want to be supported and this is why it’s really important to have outside support, coaches, mentors, other people that can guide you and support you and cheer you on, because it doesn’t always come from our friends and family.
Just know that you’re not alone in that, but I’m confident that if you apply these two tools into your life you will start to feel even more supported as you’re moving forward on your dreams.
Here is to you living a life you love,
Stacey
After 16 years of climbing the corporate ladder, mentoring entrepreneurs in marking, operations and finance, I made the decision in 2014 to teach success principles full time, combining my love of business and personal development.
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